A Successful Step...

Today was the first day we were successful leaving Miah in the church Sunday School class. She has been going to this class each week for a year now, but one of us has always stayed with her. We have tried on a few occasions to leave, but the tears quickly developed and we were paged to return to the class after about 10 minutes.


We have left her a couple of times with Grandma and Grandpa, which was fine and once with a babysitter (her sisters were with her so she felt comfortable). I started talking yesterday about how she would stay in the class by herself and that mommy would come back when she was finished playing. It was the first thing she talked about this morning and seemed pretty keen on the idea of going "my self." However, when it was time for me to leave the changed her mind and started crying that "Mommy stay." I told her I would be back, passed her over to the volunteer and then left the room. There is a one way window into the class so I was able to observe her. She cried for about 5 minutes and then slowly made her way over to where the action was and then actively participated! She stayed by herself for 45 minutes! I was so proud of her!


I do hope that this is a sign that we are on the right track in regards to attachment. I hope and pray that she is starting to trust us and feels confident that we will come back to get her. I think somedays she is torn between being a typical (almost ) three year old who wants to gain Independence and "do it myself" and the scared child who worries about people leaving her never to be seen again.



Miah is loving her backyard play pool. She is not afraid of the water (making Mommy nervous) and dives right in.